I am not going to lie, I miss being the BRIDE! Planning our wedding last year was my favorite to-do. I even think to myself and wonder if I should try to be a wedding planner someday because I loved it that much. Don’t get me wrong, at times it was stressful, but the fun always outweighed the stress for me. I know that’s not the case for most brides so almost one year later, I want to share with you all what got me through the planing process and how planning a wedding actually applies to real life. This may be a stretch, I know, but practical application of wedding details such as decision making, budgets and help from others taught me SO much.
Like anything in life, from a job interview to selecting your wedding venue, make sure you do the research. I would tirelessly research prices, compare amenities, stock peoples photos who had used the vendor, venue, whatever until I knew every detail and had compiled a list of a million questions to ask. This not only helped me to make an educated decision about whatever the choice was in front of me at the time but it also taught me the discipline of being educated and reading in-between the lines. Wedding costs are insane, literally we all know that anything associated with the word “wedding” cost three times what it normally would so prepare yourself as best you can to be sure of your decisions.
In wedding planning and in life I’ve learned that everything hinges on the commitment to a well thought out budget. Now, I had an extremely hard time sticking to our wedding budget but in the end we made it work. You cut corners where necessary to make sure you don’t spend your entire savings on one day! Remember that yes it’s the best day of your life but you don’t need to break the bank to make that happen. I had to repeat this to myself daily throughout the planning process as it’s so easy to get wrapped up in the latest must-haves. Regardless, sticking to our wedding budget made me understand the importance of planning financially, literally every penny. I still do that today for our monthly expenses from rent to food and even dog necessities (there are a lot okay- they need toys and treats haha!) and beyond. I must have a plan to everything so starting with the finances keeps me organized each month.
I know they say, “it takes a village to raise a child,” but I don’t have a child and think it takes a village to do a lot of things… even plan a wedding. I did do a lot of it myself and of course with the help of my Mom and Mack. But I had two wedding planners, countless family members and friends who also helped with so many details leading up to and on the big day. You truly can’t do it all on your own. I’ve found the same to be true in life! We must rely on others for help sometimes. Whether you are working late and need a good friend to go let your dogs out or just need to be dropped off at the car repair shop, you have to have people around you who are willing to help. Especially with Mack’s crazy schedule, I’ve found so much value in the help from my “village.” I literally couldn’t be more grateful! I am such a firm believer in thank you notes and think they should be over used!
So, as you are caught in the meticulous details surrounding your wedding just understand the frustration and even the joys are teaching you lessons far beyond simply saying, “I do!” For all my brides-to-be out there, I am jealous of you but also thankful to have had my time as the Bride. In honor of all the soon-to-be brides out there, especially my sweet cousin and countless friends who have weddings this summer, here is a list of cute little gifts for YOU!
Thank you so much for spending some time with me today!